Forever

Listening to: Leona Lewis - Bleeding Love

How do we know if we found that someone we want to spend our whole life with? A friend of mine asked me that question a few days ago, and it left me wondering and pondering. How do we really know? I know it's not on how long you've been together. Even couples who've been together for 10 years break up. Some couples who've only been together for a few months, end up together. So I believe it's not a matter of time. It's finding that someone who you can't live without. But when we are in a relationship, there comes a point where we think that we can't live without that person, then eventually the relationship ends. Months and months, we're haunted of the thought that we can no longer live life without that person. We suffer, a part of us die - we become cranky and depressed. Then miraculously, we realize we can still continue on living, and we slowly forget that person. Well, we go back asking ourselves, how do we know? I think there is really no right and specific answer to that question. It really depends on the ones involved and it's definitely a matter of timing. Even when both are helplessly in love with each other, but one of them is still not ready to enter into a lifelong commitment, then it won't work. There'll be no marriage and no forever. So I think it's when both parties are ready to enter into a lifelong commitment, with or without them being helplessly in love. But I still prefer the helplessly in love part, why marry someone you're not helplessly in love with - it makes no sense. A few of us are lucky to have found that someone they're helplessly in love with and get married and live happily ever after. But for us unlucky ones, we need to tread on unsafe waters a few more times to find that someone we can't live without and who can't live without us. It's such a tedious process, with lots of heartbreaks and heartaches, buckets of tears and lots of emotional breakdowns - until we find that right person. But in the end, I believe it's worth it. How can we really experience true happiness without going through pain?